Why Receiving Feels So Hard (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)

susieeft
Jan 21
2 min read

You know that awkward moment when someone gives you a compliment and you deflect it like a tennis ball?

Or when help is offered and you feel like you want to say yes—but instead, you smile and say, “I’m fine”?

Yep… that.

Receiving should feel good! It should feel connected, expansive and natural.

But for so many of us—especially heart-centered, healing-focused humans—it feels uncomfortable, confronting, or even unsafe.

And guess what?

❗️That’s not a personal failure.

❗️It’s not a mindset issue.

❗️It’s not even a lack of gratitude.

❗️It’s conditioning—and sometimes, it’s trauma.

Let’s get honest: Receiving is vulnerable!

To truly receive means letting something in.

Love. Attention. Help. Praise. Money. Opportunity.

It asks you to soften. To trust. To open up. To be vulnerable.

And if your past taught you that receiving came with strings attached… or made you feel indebted… or unsafe… then your nervous system might now associate “receiving” with risk instead of reward.

So you stay in control. You give. You serve.

But when it comes to letting yourself receive?

You freeze, you deflect, or you downplay your needs entirely.

And here’s the twist: Many givers are secretly craving to receive.

But we’re stuck in loops like:

👉 “I don’t deserve it”

👉 “If I receive, I’ll owe someone something.”

👉 “I don’t want to take too much.”

👉 “What if they see the real me and change their mind?”

👉 “I don’t want to be a burden.”

Can you feel the internal resistance hiding behind these beliefs?

This is what we lovingly explore—and release—inside the upcoming EFT series, From Resistance to Receiving.

Because …. What If Receiving Could Feel Safe?

This isn’t about forcing yourself to “receive more.”

It’s about clearing the blocks that tell you it’s not safe or acceptable to do so.

As part of the 10 webinar program, From Resistance to Receiving: The Inner work that changes everything Inside our April webinar, in April and May, we’ll dive deep into the energetic and emotional roots of your giving / receiving wounds.

With EFT tapping, you’ll gently unhook the guilt, fear, and shame that keep you in patterns of over-giving and the lack of safety in receiving.

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Imagine:

💗 Accepting compliments without deflecting.

💗 Receiving money without guilt or stress.

💗 Letting in support without fear.

💗 Trusting the goodness that flows to you… because you know you’re worthy of it.

💗 Honouring those who wish to give to you.

Receiving is a core need and value that you were born to experience. It’s your connection with yourself and others. It’s your birthright. Let me help you reclaim it.